This past week as I was driving in my car I listened to one of my favorite cds by Phillips, Craig and Dean. It’s the live version and I got it from a friend a few years ago for a birthday gift.
One of my favorite songs on the cd is Build a Bridge of Love. On the live version of the cd one of the artists tells the story of his grandfather being a bridge builder. He said that his grandfather told him that the same materials to build bridges can be used to build barriers, it’s a choice of how you use the materials.
Yesterday morning on one of our coldest days of the year I was in town and took this picture of an old train bridge in Little Falls, Minnesota. It has always been a favorite bridge of mine because of the architectural detail and its age.
Build a Bridge of Love by Phillips, Craig & Dean
Isn’t it crazy, we haven’t spoken in years
We were the closest friends
Where did we part, when did the love disappear
We thought it’d never end
Just a causeless separation
A turn in the road of life
But now we’re nothing more than strangers
Don’t you think that it’s time to
Let’s build a bridge of love together
One stone of hope at a time
Let’s span the sea that comes between us
So join your hand and heart with mine
The timing is right for our differences to cease
O Father make us one
Let’s join in the fight to love all humanity
Our time has just begaun
We can use these precious moments
To tear apart dividing walls
And with those stones of separation
Build a bridge for all
Every race and every nation
United and unique
We’re all just links in a chain of love
I need you, you need me
The past week I’ve had a lot of time to think about relationships. I’ve been home sick with the flu. Relationships are hard work. It is much easier to build a barrier one piece at a time with each hurt or misunderstanding until the barrier is so large you cannot see over it or too long and can not walk around it.
Each day I have to make an effort to make the choices that will create healthy relationships. I’m not talking about becoming a doormat but keeping the lines of communication open even when I don’t agree with someone’s choices. My usual way to deal with conflict is to run the other way. I just don’t like it and I don’t seek it out. But that in itself can be a barrier between me and another.
I don’t want to start building a barrier so that if in the future someone feels like talking about something they can still find me accessible instead of locked up in my castle with the drawbridge drawn up and the moat full of crocks. Not a pretty picture but it can happen one piece at a time until we have secluded ourselves from the very people on this earth who were put here to enrich it.