The Fine Art of Relaxing

03 Mar

Today as I listened to those around me there seemed to be a developing theme for the day. The morning started with reading my email as I usually do before work while drinking my morning coffee. One email I receive every day is Turning Point by Dr. David Jeremiah. It is a daily on-line devotional. The theme of this morning’s devotional was Crazy Busy.

In his book, CrazyBusy: Overstretched, Overbooked and About to Snap, Edward M. Hallowell wrote about the moment he knew he had crossed the dark side from busy to crazy busy. It was when he lost his temper at a rotary dial phone while on vacation. His cell phone wouldn’t work, and he just about went nuts waiting for the dial to return to start with every number. Then, calming down, he timed the process. The entire dialing process took all of eleven seconds. “What a fool I had become,” he wrote. “I had become a man in a hurry even when I had no need to hurry.”

After finishing up with a few things at home I headed into work and there was a salesperson waiting to see me when I arrived. She comes to our business once every month or two for a visit. We talked about my vacation a bit and then she related a story about their family trip to the Wisconsin Dells with her husband and two kids. They planned carefully for their trip time wise and financially before they left. She said everything went fine for the first two days because they were in one place but then she said that’s when the fun ended and it went from vacation to crazy busy even on vacation.

They spent the third day of their vacation hitting every tourist trap up and down the streets in the Wisconsin Dell area. They denied themselves nothing. They spent more than they had planned on stuff they hadn’t planned than on what they had planned. She said it was like the whole family was in a frenzy going from one thing to the next. It was not what they had planned for their vacation. They came home frazzled, broke and exhausted.

When I started on the work I had planned for the day I managed to get a few things done on my list but spent most of the day “putting out fires” as my husband refers to taking care of the urgent but not necessarily the important.

Some days we are too busy “putting out fires” in our crazy busy world that we neglect what’s most important-time for ourselves and our family. It’s important to build some solitude in your daily routine and rest. On the days when my husband and I get home late from work it is hard to give up the time for the things I enjoy and opt for the rest I need.

When my boys were young one of their favorite things to do was to hop up into Grandpa’s chair if he had vacated it long enough for the boys to notice. They loved to lean back and stretch out pretending to be just like Grandpa in his chair. Our grandson has started to play the same game. I hope that the next generation will learn how to slow down and enjoy the moment better than this generation does, at least that is my hope.


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10 responses to “The Fine Art of Relaxing

  1. 36x37

    March 3, 2011 at 10:49 am

    Life really can be such a rat race. I hope you enjoyed every ounce of your vacation; you certainly deserved it.

    • flyinggma

      March 3, 2011 at 1:00 pm

      I did enjoy my vacation and certainly found some time to relax.

  2. writerwoman61

    March 3, 2011 at 11:51 am

    This is a timely post for me, Jeanne…fighting (and losing) with technology as we speak!

    I’d like to think the next generation will be more relaxed than we are, but I doubt it…


    • flyinggma

      March 3, 2011 at 1:05 pm

      Hope your technology stuff works out for you. I am having some technology issues as well trying to figure out some new stuff.

  3. nrhatch

    March 3, 2011 at 12:57 pm

    Perfect post! Love that pic!
    It’s crazy to be so impatient that 11 seconds seems like a life or death matter.

    Thanks, Jeanne.

    • flyinggma

      March 3, 2011 at 1:07 pm

      Thanks! I’m amazed at how frustrated I get some days if it takes a page a little longer to load. How soon I forgot the dial-up days.

  4. Carol Ann Hoel

    March 3, 2011 at 4:39 pm

    Thank you for reminding me how important it is to relax. I know it, but somehow, I get into this mindset that I must get everything done before I rest. In fact, we are more productive after a period of relaxation.

    The photo is adorable! Blessings to you, Jeanne…

    • flyinggma

      March 3, 2011 at 5:10 pm

      Thanks Carol…I am a proud Grandma for sure. Blessings to you, Carol

  5. Patricia

    March 3, 2011 at 9:35 pm

    Hurry, for the most part, is not part of my vocabulary. Wasn’t always so but the older I get the less I rush. Maybe I just want time to slow down since I am in the last third of my life and the first two thirds went so fast.

  6. flyinggma

    March 3, 2011 at 9:42 pm

    I think that I try to do too much because I’m afraid that I’ve squandered too many years and there aren’t enough years left to do all the things I would like to do.


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