First Impressions

31 Dec

This evening my husband and I had another opportunity for a good first impression.  Tonight when we got home from work after 8 pm our 21-year-old daughter said that she had invited her new friend “that is a boy” over to our house for the first time.  Not to be confused with a boyfriend.

I glanced around my very messy kitchen, livingroom and asked “When is he coming over?”  My kids are not great at giving me much notice when someone is coming over for a visit.  After working all day and late most evenings the house is rarely company ready.  It’s lived in.

I wanted things to go well with our first impression.  I kicked it into high gear along with my other daughter worked with me to get things looking respectable.  Christy had to drive into town to meet him so he could follow her to our home.  By the time they arrived we had things looking pretty good. 

Our oldest son retreated to his room before the guest arrived so he wouldn’t be accused of a bad first impression.  To be fair to him, he went to bed early because he had to be up earlier this morning for work.  But still I can understand his wanting to retreat.  His sisters have a way of putting imaginary thoughts in our heads and his,  regarding their friends.  Thinking we think things that were never thought. 

“Awkward”  as my daughters put it so often these days.

Thanks to a toddler in the house, the usual tension in meeting someone new was almost non-existent because Jack was ready to entertain.    We introduced ourselves after our daughter introduced her friend.  Jack was ready to show all his new toys and especially his basketball hoop.

We settled in talking about the usual stuff like  “Do you attend college or work a job” .  We never asked about his family.  Not wanting to pry into his personal life too much.  We know that he is from a town 14 miles from us so he’s a local boy.  It’s a good thing to know if you want to keep your kids close to home as they go out on their own.  Am I jumping to conclusions, that there might be a long-term relationship here? 

My daughters and I attended a bridal shower for one of the girls from our church yesterday morning.  I could see in their faces and all the other single girls there, they wanted what she has.  A life-time companion and best friend.  They want the fairy tale as Julia Roberts put it so plainly in Pretty Woman.  One of my all time favorite movies.

He answered hesitantly.  “I attended college and now I work.”  I wondered why the hesitation?  I soon found out.  My daughter must have told him that my husband and I have a general dislike of casinos.  Her new friend works at a casino.  He maintains the computer systems for the administrators at the casino.  We tried to put him at ease and ask more about his work.  My husband also has a computer degree and with my bookkeeping work we had some things in common.  Things seem to lighten up. 

The girls and Jack took the new friend downstairs to pick out a movie to watch.  After some time and a lot of laughter coming from the basement they came back upstairs with Horton Hears A Who.  I thought interesting choice but pleased that it wasn’t one filled with foul language.  Jack was delighted.

They settled in watching the movie and we worked on our laptops.  In the room but not in the conversation.  Soon it was time for bed for us.  I went into the kitchen and thought should I set the mouse traps or not.  What kind of impression that leave about us?  Dirty?  Messy?  Bad housekeeper?  I hope not.  I try, really I do.  I tried as quietly as possible to set up the traps in the kitchen before I headed to bed.  They would have to walk through the kitchen before he left so I tried to hide them as much as possible.

My husband and I were in the back hallway by the laundry room and he quietly asked “What’s his name?” 

I said “John.”

He said “Shawn?”

I said “John”

We then proceeded to the livingroom to say goodnight.  My husband said “Goodnight Shawn, John…just kidding.”

Our daughter just rolled her eyes at her father.

Back in our early dating days my dad just couldn’t get Dean’s name right.  He called him Scott.  Maybe it’s a Dad thing.

I can’t wait until I hear the review from my daughters today on how we did in the meeting the parents episode for John. 

I hope well. 

He seemed nice and we really were on our best behavior. I promise!

 Blessing to all in MMXI !

jeanne aka FlyingGma


Posted by on December 31, 2010 in Family, Life Happens


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14 responses to “First Impressions

  1. sunshineinlondon

    December 31, 2010 at 10:53 am

    Dads just have to tease, don’t they? I’m sure you made a fabulous impression – how could you not, in such a loving home as yours? The warmth and the welcome count far more than a tidy home, although it sounds like you had everything just right.
    Happy 2011 to you and your lovely family, Jeanne!
    Sunshine xx

  2. flyinggma

    December 31, 2010 at 11:08 am

    Thanks Sunshine you are always so kind. Dad’s can’t help but tease but when they do you know somehow that they approve. It’s when they don’t you have something to worry about. Jeanne.

  3. 36x37

    December 31, 2010 at 11:12 am

    I’m sure you made a lovely firsts impression, Jeanne. How could you not? It sounds like the sort of cozy, family-oriented evening anyone would want to spend. 🙂

    This post made me think of the first time I brought GB home to meet my parents over Christmas break my senior year of college. He was only supposed to stay for the weekend, but my mom kept cooking and cooking and cooking for him, and suddenly two days turned to three, then four. I still thank my mother for that. 🙂

    Happy New Year!

    • flyinggma

      December 31, 2010 at 11:53 am

      I love your Mom! She sounds wonderful. I think the evening went fine. I know that Christy is anxious to get on with her life as soon as she is done with college next year.

  4. nrhatch

    December 31, 2010 at 11:57 am

    Sounds like you did fine . . . unless he got a toe pinched in a mousetrap on the way out. 🙂

    Happy New Year!

  5. flyinggma

    December 31, 2010 at 1:59 pm

    He survived the mousetraps but the mouse didn’t. We must not have scared him off too bad. They are going out for New Years Eve tonight.

    Happy New Year to you as well. Jeanne

  6. writerwoman61

    December 31, 2010 at 5:26 pm

    Sounds like a fun first meeting…I’m sure he was more nervous than you guys were!

    Kaylee’s Scott’s dad is a financial planner…the first time Kaylee met him, he asked her how much money she made…his social skills are a bit lacking!

    Happy 2011!


    • jeanne

      December 31, 2010 at 7:14 pm

      Ouch! I’d say a bit lacking for sure. Christy and John are going out for New Year’s Eve so last night so we probably didn’t scare him off.

  7. Thomas Stazyk

    December 31, 2010 at 8:15 pm

    It was really nice of you to make the effort you did. As someone mentioned, I’m sure he was more worried than you!

  8. flyinggma

    December 31, 2010 at 10:29 pm

    I’m sure he probably was more worried than we were… it’s just hard to have things the way I would like them after working late and not knowing about him coming over. A little more notice would have eased my concerns. Overall it was a nice evening.

  9. Todd Pack

    January 2, 2011 at 8:35 am

    Our daughter is only 10, but I’m dreading the day she brings a boy home, so I’m impressed that you made a good-enough impression that he didn’t run screaming into the night or that your daughter didn’t tell her afterward that you ruined her life!

    • flyinggma

      January 2, 2011 at 9:16 am

      It’s always hard to know where to draw the line. My husband and I love to tease each other, we’ve been together for 31 years. Our kids just roll their eyes. When we have someone new in the house it’s hard to hold back what comes naturally.
      One of the hardest parts of raising kids is the thoughts that they think are in your head that you’ve never voiced. Sometimes they get angry at you for something you never thought or said.
      The main thing is to keep talking to your kids and be a part of their lives. It sounds to me like you have a great thing going with your kids with the Saturday and Sunday morning breakfasts.

  10. Booksphotographsandartwork

    January 4, 2011 at 7:06 pm

    First impressions can be scary can’t they? My house is most certainly lived in! It feels as if every single time my daughter brings her boyfriend over there are dishes in the sink! Her current boyfriend had dreads when we first met him, imagine my surpise. Long ones that hung in his face. The hair hanging in the face really bothered me. He has since cut his hair and taken out the dreads. Much better. And he is a really nice guy.

  11. flyinggma

    January 4, 2011 at 9:56 pm

    They are scary because you want so badly for things to work out well for your children. Looks aren’t everything I’ve come to learn but they certainly can cause you pause at the moment.


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