This evening my husband and I had another opportunity for a good first impression. Tonight when we got home from work after 8 pm our 21-year-old daughter said that she had invited her new friend “that is a boy” over to our house for the first time. Not to be confused with a boyfriend.
I glanced around my very messy kitchen, livingroom and asked “When is he coming over?” My kids are not great at giving me much notice when someone is coming over for a visit. After working all day and late most evenings the house is rarely company ready. It’s lived in.
I wanted things to go well with our first impression. I kicked it into high gear along with my other daughter worked with me to get things looking respectable. Christy had to drive into town to meet him so he could follow her to our home. By the time they arrived we had things looking pretty good.
Our oldest son retreated to his room before the guest arrived so he wouldn’t be accused of a bad first impression. To be fair to him, he went to bed early because he had to be up earlier this morning for work. But still I can understand his wanting to retreat. His sisters have a way of putting imaginary thoughts in our heads and his, regarding their friends. Thinking we think things that were never thought.
“Awkward” as my daughters put it so often these days.
Thanks to a toddler in the house, the usual tension in meeting someone new was almost non-existent because Jack was ready to entertain. We introduced ourselves after our daughter introduced her friend. Jack was ready to show all his new toys and especially his basketball hoop.
We settled in talking about the usual stuff like “Do you attend college or work a job” . We never asked about his family. Not wanting to pry into his personal life too much. We know that he is from a town 14 miles from us so he’s a local boy. It’s a good thing to know if you want to keep your kids close to home as they go out on their own. Am I jumping to conclusions, that there might be a long-term relationship here?
My daughters and I attended a bridal shower for one of the girls from our church yesterday morning. I could see in their faces and all the other single girls there, they wanted what she has. A life-time companion and best friend. They want the fairy tale as Julia Roberts put it so plainly in Pretty Woman. One of my all time favorite movies.
He answered hesitantly. “I attended college and now I work.” I wondered why the hesitation? I soon found out. My daughter must have told him that my husband and I have a general dislike of casinos. Her new friend works at a casino. He maintains the computer systems for the administrators at the casino. We tried to put him at ease and ask more about his work. My husband also has a computer degree and with my bookkeeping work we had some things in common. Things seem to lighten up.
The girls and Jack took the new friend downstairs to pick out a movie to watch. After some time and a lot of laughter coming from the basement they came back upstairs with Horton Hears A Who. I thought interesting choice but pleased that it wasn’t one filled with foul language. Jack was delighted.
They settled in watching the movie and we worked on our laptops. In the room but not in the conversation. Soon it was time for bed for us. I went into the kitchen and thought should I set the mouse traps or not. What kind of impression that leave about us? Dirty? Messy? Bad housekeeper? I hope not. I try, really I do. I tried as quietly as possible to set up the traps in the kitchen before I headed to bed. They would have to walk through the kitchen before he left so I tried to hide them as much as possible.
My husband and I were in the back hallway by the laundry room and he quietly asked “What’s his name?”
I said “John.”
He said “Shawn?”
I said “John”
We then proceeded to the livingroom to say goodnight. My husband said “Goodnight Shawn, John…just kidding.”
Our daughter just rolled her eyes at her father.
Back in our early dating days my dad just couldn’t get Dean’s name right. He called him Scott. Maybe it’s a Dad thing.
I can’t wait until I hear the review from my daughters today on how we did in the meeting the parents episode for John.
I hope well.
He seemed nice and we really were on our best behavior. I promise!
Blessing to all in MMXI !
jeanne aka FlyingGma